What happens when we enter each day with intent to be present? What happens when our intent for the day is I see you, I hear you, I feel you?
Our life changes when we wake up committed to see what and how the day unfolds, hear the nuances whispering in each moment, and feel the joys and sorrows around us. If we can meet the day without attachment, judgment, or defense, our world would be a little less violent and a whole lot more compassionate.
Those three verbs — to see, to hear, to feel — propel us into committed engagement. It is not that the world or people in it behave differently; rather, we experience the world as it is. No matter what we discover, we find a way to respond lovingly instead of reacting from fears.
With intent, we notice when we get mired by life’s challenges — those little and big ways we get stuck in the minutia that threatens to overwhelm us. With this stance of presence we have a better chance of avoiding reactions. We share our truth. In doing so, the world becomes a better place.
Committing to being in the present moment
To commit to see, to hear, and to feel is to live in a stance of presence. How do we create a habit of presence? By:
- Setting intent to be aware in each moment
- Anchoring mindfully into the moment
- Noticing how reactions are being triggered
- Being immersed in silence where you listen to your thoughts
- Choosing words and actions that reflect your intent
These five steps into a stance of presence are anything but simple. Each draws us farther away from reactions and closer to living a life of response. But, we cannot hope to transform in a day. Our journey from fear-filled reactions to compassionate response is a life long endeavor.
Practice is everything
It takes practice to enter the day committed to really seeing, hearing, and feeling the world around us. It takes practice to live from intent in order to minimize your reactions. It takes practice to move through the spiral of empathy to compassion without a hitch
Engaging others with compassion
To engage others in this way is to be empathetic. And, sometimes that causes pain to our self. But, these five steps help us recognize when we get mired in the suffering of another, and they give us the strength to respond to our self and others with compassion.
Remember, we really are in this together. Unless, we care first for our self, we have nothing left over for anyone else. We are unable to see for cloudy eyes, hear for stuffy ears, and feel for frostbit fingertips.
My commitment to see you, hear you, and feel you begins with a commitment to taking care of me — to stand as a witness in my own life so that I can stand as witness in yours. Join me in taking that long look at the real and making changing in our self so that world is a better place for all.
What do you commit to?